Moving to another country isn't easy. As well as trying to get settled in your new life, you're likely to encounter some local customs that may seem, well, a little odd.
Of course, this is totally different for everyone - and many people are surprised just how quickly they end up picking up some German habits themselves that can raise a few eyebrows on their next trip home.
Here are some of the main things that foreigners consider just a little bit merkwürdig (unusual) when they first arrive in Germany.
The intense staring
No, you haven't accidentally left your house in your pyjamas today. What you're encountering is affectionately known as the German stare, and if you come from a country where it's rude to stare at strangers, it may feel a little bit uncomfortable at first.
Getting locked in the intense gaze of a German was something that a few of our readers mentioned, and for Sara, 32, from Oregon, it was hard to get used to at first.
"The German stare was really pronounced in Southern Germany and hard to deal with since I have a lot of anxiety anyways," she said. "It can be hard sometimes, though I'll do it myself now too."
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A mountain of paperwork
Everyone knows that Germany is a fan of bureaucracy, but nothing quite prepares you for the shock of experiencing it first-hand.
"One of my biggest shocks is how almost everything requires a contract - from cell phones to dating sites," said Christopher Wilson, 44, who grew up in New Orleans but now lives in Berlin.
"All of these things can be be easily set up and cancelled in the US in a matter of minutes. Here, I've learned some very expensive lessons forgetting to properly cancel my contracts."
Fellow US citizen Nancy Landrum said she was also shocked by the amount of bureaucracy required to get anything done after moving to Leipzig.
"So many hoops to jump through," she said, adding that the rules in Germany were surprisingly "strict and rigid".
... and dark-age digital services
Dealing with a big pile of paperwork is one thing, but sending that same pile of paperwork via fax machine? That's a bridge too far.
For many respondents, digitalisation - or the lack of it - was a huge shock when they first moved to Germany and still takes some getting used to.
"Bureaucracy, poor digitalisation, poor online services - I was expecting Germany to be much more efficient on the online services front," said 37-year-old Michele from Italy. "This includes online grocery deliveries."
A lot of people were also surprised by how hard it was to find places that accept card payments, and especially credit cards.
Siva Prasad Tripuraneni, 28, from India, said he now appreciates the "fast banking system" and "technological advancement" whenever he goes back home, having experienced the complete opposite during his time in Germany.
Customer service and dining out
Even something as simple as popping out for a meal or heading to the shops can alert people to some striking cultural differences in Germany.
When Justin, 35, returned to the United States last summer, he found himself marvelling at the fact the restaurants were willing to give him tap water - even though he had been shocked by the lack of tap water given to customers when he'd first moved to Germany.
For Alison, 54, the bad customer service was one of the first things that she noticed after moving to North Rhine-Westphalia from England. However, the shock of the difference has lessened over time.
"The customer service is getting better or maybe I can handle it better now I speak German," she explained. "But the lack of flexibility and willingness by customer service to handle exceptions is still poor in general."
Other readers pointed out some slightly less obvious oddities in the German dining experience.
"Has anyone noticed that you can't get soup spoons in any restaurant?", asked John Conlon from the UK. "You buy soup and have to use a serviette to wipe it off your chin."
In this case, the cultural differences led John to an exciting new business idea. "I think I could make some money introducing soup spoons," he said.
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Supermarkets
Think you're safe from cultural differences in the supermarket? Think again.
For most foreigners in Germany, the first trip to their local Netto or REWE can be a stressful one, and many people commented at the shock of getting items chucked at them breakneck speed while scrabbling to pack and pay at the checkout.
This was the case for 35-year-old Sebastian from Australia, who told us he still "gets annoyed" by being rushed to pack his bags while food shopping.
"In general, I find the grocery store compresses many of the etiquette differences between US and Germany into one action-packed experience," said another respondent from the US. "This sometimes includes being scolded or almost being hit by a car in the parking lot."
Derald Preston, 55, from Long Island, found himself in an awkward standoff with a cashier at a Braunschweig supermarket as he waited for her to pack his items.
"She began to give me the death look," he said. "I couldn't figure out what was wrong until my colleague told me that I had to bag my own groceries... with my own bag or buy one! How could I be so stupid not to bring my own grocery bags to the grocery store?"
The topsy-turvy world of bread
It's no secret that Germans love their bread, but the culture around it can be confusing for foreigners.
"There are a lot of really small things, like not finding a portable container that fits sandwich bread sized sandwiches," said Sara from Oregon. "They sell sandwich bread, but apparently no one uses it for sandwiches."
For fellow American Ben, 25, it's been hard to get used to dominance of wheat products and the lack of alternatives for people with dietary requirements.
"As someone who is gluten free, living in Germany in particular has been incredibly challenging," the Bochum resident told us. "I've also lived in Hungary and Austria, and both locations did a much better job of providing gluten free foods. Budapest surprisingly has many dedicated gluten free restaurants, but I have yet to find a single one in the entire Ruhrgebiet."
Others pointed out that the culture of Abendbrot - having bread for dinner - also seemed strange, especially for people that are used to a hot, hearty evening meal back home.
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The love-affair with nudity
Frei-körper-kultur (FKK), or "free body culture", is a big thing in Germany, but the love of public nudity can be bewildering to foreigners.
"Why can't people keep their clothes on?", muses John Conlon. "One afternoon walking through a park in Berlin I saw a man with a leather jacket, boots but nothing else. I've seen a man with his trousers around his ankles, playing the guitar."
Though the sight of people's wobbly bits in public spaces does take some getting used to, foreigners who have been in Germany long enough can often come to the conclusion that if you can't beat them, you might as well join them.
"I've been here long enough now, I actually join in with this carefree attitude to nudism," John says.
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German healthcare
If you happen to need a doctor's appointment to process the stress of all these culture shocks, you may be in for a nasty surprise: for many of our readers, the healthcare system and practices was one of the biggest shocks they had to deal with.
Felicity Carter from Sydney, Australia, described "traumatising" experiences of being ill in hospital and dealing with the far less private body culture in Germany.
"There were no curtains around the beds, doctors doing intimate examinations of other patients in front of me, a patient with diarrhoea being put on a mobile toilet right in front of my bed, no paper gowns for x-rays or other medical exams, and ancillary staff wandering through the room during diagnostic procedures when I was naked," she said.
Others commented on the fact that women aren't given gowns to cover up during intimate cancer screenings, while some said the biggest shock was how long they had to wait for an appointment.
Part of getting used to life in Germany is about "developing the confidence that you'll still be alive when you confirm a doctor's appointment for 2024 or something!", joked 42-year-old Prakruthi from India.
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Rudeness
Experiencing the full force of German directness is a major culture shock for many foreigners - almost regardless of where they come from.
"I find Germans so hostile and rude sometimes," said 33-year-old JJ from the Philippines. "I've never been shoved in the US or in Asia but Germans are willing to shove you out of the way if they think you're in their way or walking too slowly. I've never been manhandled like that before but it's happened multiple times now."
Edward from Cornwall, England, said the "rudeness" and "bluntness" of some Germans had been hard to get used to when he moved to Berlin - even when he attempted to speak German and be accommodating.
"The worst is checkout staff barely saying hello and throwing my stuff through at lightning speed," the 30-year-old explained. "Neighbours who just stand and stare blankly and don't respond to a simple 'Moin'/'Guten Morgen' is a close second."
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The good stuff
Of course, living in Germany isn't all bad. A lot of people actually found they were pleasantly surprised by a lot of things they experienced after moving here, from lower levels of poverty to cleaner, safer streets.
Dan from New York enjoys how much safer he feels in Erlangen than he does in the US. "I miss the confidence we have here in Germany that there is little to no threat to well being, when visiting from the US," he said.
Fellow New Yorker Craig, 68, was similarly amazed by how clean, efficient and cheap Germany is. "A public transit system that works, beautiful parks, low cost of living and smooth streets" were all among the positives he noticed after moving here.
Other Americans pointed out how amazing it was to be in a country with no guns - and how much reverse culture shock they felt when they returned to the US - while some marvelled at the unbelievable amount of paid holiday their German friends were given at work.
"When I first moved here German friends would say they were absolutely broke then once drunk, after I’ve paid, talk about a vacation they were soon taking to Morocco, Greece, Mexico, etc.," said Shon Abram from LA. "I was a freelancer and never realised German contracts allow up to 40 days of vacation."
Chicago-born Emma, 28, said the German work/life balance was admirable but still a bit of a shock to the system.
"The commitment to their free time is great, but still very difficult for me to fully wrap my head around," she told us.
Thanks to everyone who shared their experience with us. Although we weren’t able to include all the submissions, we read each of them and are sincerely grateful to everybody who took the time to fill in the survey.
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